Holiness in Moral Behavior
Therefore gird up the loins of your mind, be sober, and rest your hope fully upon the grace that is to be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ; as obedient children, not conforming yourselves to the former lusts, as in your ignorance; but as He who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct, because it is written, ‘Be holy, for I am holy’” (1 Peter 1:13-16). With a full awareness of the hope set before us, Peter calls upon us to reject the ways of sin and live in an obedient and holy manner. As we consider what it means to be holy, we must realize that when we were baptized into Christ we were sanctified and that point became saints, i.e. holy ones (1 Corinthians 1:2; 6:11). Yet, in daily living God expects us to become progressively holier. “Therefore, having these promises, beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God” (2 Corinthians 7:1).
In Holiness or Hell we began a look at four areas in which a consecrated life of holiness must be seen. In that first article we gave emphasis to the importance of guarding our speech. “But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment. For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned” (Matthew 12:36, 37). In this article we will look at the importance of keeping our moral behavior pure and fitting for those called saints.
While moral behavior encompasses many different things, an area that received special emphasis in the first century and continues to demand the same emphasis in the twenty-first century is sexual morality. “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one should take advantage of and defraud his brother in this matter, because the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also forewarned you and testified. For God did not call us to uncleanness, but in holiness” (1 Thessalonians 4:3-7). Sexual relations outside a lawful marriage are condemned by God and must be avoided (Hebrews 13:4; 1 Corinthians 6:9, 10; Matthew 19:9).
How can we live holy and clean lives in regard to sexual behavior? How can we keep ourselves pure? Consider four things we must do.
Avoid situations where lust is likely to occur. One reason we seek to avoid lust is that by itself it can be sinful (Matthew 5:28), but we must also recognize lust as a step on the path to immorality. Stay away from situations where lustful passions are most easily stirred up. Beaches and pools where mixed swimming (or sunning) occurs, dances, movies depicting nudity or sexual behavior, “backseats,” etc. are going to lead to lust (i.e. unlawful sexual desire) and lust often leads to fornication.
Remember that evil company will corrupt good morals (1 Corinthians 15:33). Imitate Joseph who, after saying no to the advances of Potiphar’s wife, refused to be with her (Genesis 39:10). Learn that continued associations with some will lead to sin. Breaking off a relationship may not easy, but it is the price we must sometimes be willing to pay if we are to maintain our holiness.
The married should seek to cultivate a closeness and physical intimacy that serves to satisfy both the physical and emotional needs of each partner. Read carefully 1 Corinthians 7:1-5 where Paul admonishes husbands and wives not to “deprive one another,” lest Satan use this to tempt them.
Most importantly, we must develop self-control. We must have such a great awareness of the cost of sin and conversely the wondrous beauty of an eternity with God that we will refuse to give in no matter how great the temptation. “That each of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honor” (1 Thessalonians 4:4). The first three admonitions are valid and will help us avoid some temptations, but temptations cannot be completely avoided. One can, and certainly should, avoid public pools, dirty movies, etc., but in our sex-crazed world only a hermit would be able to avoid all exposure to sexual stimuli. And while husbands and wives had responsibilities to one another, there may come a time when illness or other factors result in an unintended “depriving of one another.” The point is that even if we find ourselves confronted with unwanted stimuli or deprived by a spouse, whether deliberately or unavoidably, we are not forced to sin. If we have learned to possess our vessel in sanctification and honor we will find the way of escape from that temptation (1 Corinthians 10:13).
Will we heed God’s admonition? “Let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God” (2 Corinthians 7:1).”
All quotations taken from New King James Version, copyright 1994, Nelson Publishing Company